One crucial aspect of a successful single life is having a quality circle of friends. The older I get, I definitely lean toward the “quality over quantity” motto. Now I do believe that having friends for different parts of you and your life is important. For example, I have my single Mom friends, that I can bring my own kids around and we can be a listening ear when things get difficult with the kids, co-parenting, balancing work life with motherhood, you name it. Having someone that simply understands, is an understated blessing. I also have my city/career girlfriends, that I can meet for weekday lunches or happy hour, blow off steam about work, and discuss future goals with, as well as networking opportunities.
Throughout my tenure as a 21st Century single gal, I think I’ve tried just about every online dating platform there is. All relatively brief stints, but I have dabbled enough to know that while some are more female friendly than others, they all inevitably lead to a great deal of meaningless and repetitive conversations. Conversations that I, personally, just can’t stomach anymore. I guess I am among the dying breed that hopes to just meet someone “organically” somewhere down the line, and it just make perfect sense. But until then, I will mention one benefit I found from the dating app BUMBLE.
As that usual feeling of discouragement and exasperation poured over me for the umpteenth time, I decided to delete my Bumble dating app and just redirect my focus in life. However, as I was deleting the app, I was offered two other Bumble options, BUMBLE BFF, and one for networking/career oriented. I thought, well, what do I have to lose, a new gal pal is always welcome. So I created a profile, which if I’m being honest, was much more ME than the one I created for dating. Not intentionally, but that’s the beauty of building female friendships (healthy ones at least). We can be exactly who and what we are. No sucking in the gut, no push up bra, no qualms about coming off “clingy” or needy.
I am very much an extrovert. Making friends has always come relatively easy to me. But because I split so much of my time between the city and my hometown (over an hour away), I decided this might allow me a bit more freedom and opportunity . It was fascinating to me, the idea that you could screen friends. You could specify what you were looking for (other Mom’s with young children for play dates; gal pals to go wine tasting with; women with fur babies for dog park dates; and the list goes on). Finding common ground with someone before you ever even have to endure an awkward coffee date was appealing on both sides of the spectrum.
I didn’t waste much time reaching out to potential “BFF’s” and soon enough I had some friend dates lined up that gave me a lot to look forward to. There are a couple of women that I now schedule periodic dinner dates with and keep in contact with via social media. Although we don’t see each other TOO often, I will say they have been an asset to my life. Whether it’s catching up on fashion, chick flicks, or work, shopping or finding new hip restaurants to try together, it’s always time well spent.